Most of my clients come to me because they are unsatisfied in their jobs and know they want to do something else. But they don’t know what that “something else” is. They know they’ve got a passion or a purpose, but just haven’t figured it out yet. Their soul is crying out to find it, and they know it’s time to uncover what they’re meant to do.

They all have something in common: they’re putting way too much pressure on themselves to figure it out.

They keep searching for the one thing that will be their “it”. It has to be “right”. They have to figure it all out, and once they do, everything will fall into place. They’re working really hard and worrying a lot that they’ll get it “wrong”. But putting stress and pressure on yourself to get it right is exactly what keeps you from finding it.  Your fear of getting it “wrong” is what is holding you back from finding your passion and purpose (tweet it).

One of the first things I tell new clients is that they’ve got to take the pressure off themselves.  All that pressure causes stress. When we’re stressed out, we don’t think clearly because it kicks our flight/fight/freeze response into high gear.

When we’re freaked out (which most people are when they’re trying to figure out their “calling”), we go back to our defaults, the things that feel safe. The things that keep us where we are.

You can see that putting too much pressure on yourself to figure everything is counterproductive. It shuts you down and keeps you repeating the patterns and thoughts that got you where you are now. It prevents you from being open and seeing the clues that will lead you towards the answer you are searching for.

So what is the first step towards finding your passion, purpose and calling?

Stop trying to find it.

Instead, be curious. Experiment. Pay attention to the things that delight you. All with a sense of play. Little breadcrumbs will appear that will lead you to the trail.

Ask yourself this: What would I do or try if I wasn’t worried if it was “right”?

Whether or not it is your passion or calling, you’ll have valuable information that will guide you to your next step, guaranteed.

I’d love to hear what you would try if you weren’t worried about the outcome. What are you curious about? Share in the comments – you might inspire someone to try something new.