Being in indecision sucks the energy right out of you.  You feel drained, exhausted.  You can’t do anything but think about it.  It’s enough to make you want to curl up on the couch and never get up again.

When you’re making a major life decision, it always feels like there is so much to consider.  Whether it’s leaving your job, leaving your city, or leaving your boyfriend.  You look at it from every angle, over and over again.  It’s all you can think about, all you can talk about (most likely to the annoyance of the people around you).

I used to be an expert in indecision.

At restaurants, friends would starve while they waited for me to figure out what I wanted to order.  I pro’ed and con’ed the hell out of where to go to graduate school.  It took me two years to make the decision to leave my last job.

Tweet it: Choice, not chance, determines your destiny.

I finally realized that mulling intensely over decisions added up to a lot of wasted energy – time and effort I could have been using to move forward with the decision and living the life I wanted.

Is indecision sucking the life out of you?

I’ll let you in on a big secret – most of the time you already know the answer, you’re just not listening to yourself.

It’s a skill to get out of analysis paralysis. I’ve helped clients get out of their head and into their hearts, strip away all the bright shiny objects and really get to the core of the decision, and get real about what they want to do, not what they think they should (or should want to) do.

The trick is to start making decisions, today.  Decision-making is muscle you need to develop if you’re out of practice.  So start small, but do it daily.

Stop sucking – make a decision NOW.

Starting today, practice making one decision quickly at least once a day.

Begin with a small decision, but one you spend a good amount of energy on.  The next time you go to a restaurant, rather than mulling over the menu for a half hour before making a choice, choose the first thing that sounds delicious and satisfying and close the menu.  Don’t think about it further.  Whether you love it or hate it, you’ll have practiced listening to yourself and making a quick decision.

When making plans, if someone asks you what you want to do, instead of saying “Whatever, what do you want to do?” say the first thing that comes to mind.

Don’t lounge in regret, or second-guess yourself.  Be fully present with your decision.  As Marie Forleo says, clarity comes from engagement, not thought.  Take action now, you’ll find your truth.  Only by making decisions and paying attention will you get the clues that you need to move forward.

Make a commitment to yourself to make one quick, decisive action each day for the next week.  I think you’ll be surprised at how quickly your decision-making muscle grows.  Soon, you’ll be making bigger decisions quicker and feeling more secure in them, too.

Feel like you need some help making a decision?  Consider signing up for one of my Love it or Leave it Clarity Consultations today.

Take Action Now

Make a declaration that you’re making a decision TODAY.  Share it in the comments below.  Start a decision revolution – share this post with your friends and dare them to make a decision, too.  Tell them indecision sucks. Stop sucking and start taking action.